Evia goes in on Neecy

Neecayyyyyyyyy,Girl look like you done forgot the first rule of power

Law 1:  NEVER OUTSHINE THE MASTER

GUIDE TO GAIN POWER AND SUCCESS

Golden Rule: “Always make those above you feel comfortably superior and brilliant”


https://neecysnest.wordpress.com/2015/01/07/do-not-stay-losing-part-ii-simplify-your-life/

Neecy since removed Evia comments and edited post.

1.      Evia
Jan 08, 2015 @ 07:19:14

Neecy, I looked but couldn’t find your email address so I’m writing this here. I would like to call your attention to what is most likely an oversight.

I would greatly appreciate it if, in your articles, you would give me and other BWE bloggers credit for the concepts that we’ve introduced into this black women’s empowerment discourse. As I’ve read some of your later articles, you have several times quoted me and other bloggers without giving us credit for our contributions. That is something that I’m always extra careful to do. We must give credit where it’s due in order to build trust between bw. For ex. “Living Well is the Best Revenge” is the title of the last article in Book 4 of my book: LIVING WELL: BLACK WOMEN INTERRACIAL AND INTERCULTURAL MARRIAGE–BOOK 4. Yet, you’re stating that as one of your main points in this article without mentioning me–at all. I’ve also written and posted this article online and talked about “living well” extensively.

I was also the blogger who both introduced the term and has put the greatest emphasis on VETTING and under that topic, I was also the one who has stressed the supreme importance of watching what a man or anyone DOES versus just listening to their words. Yet you don’t reference that. I know that it was either me or Khadija who introduced the importance of “boundaries” and we’ve written extensively about those topics in our articles.

Also, as I mentioned in my comment last week, the one that you didn’t post, it was BWE blogger CW who–way back–introduced the term “STEALTH” into this BWE discourse. Also, I’m fairly certain that it was Khadija who (to my best knowledge) has relentlessly beaten the “Stop the Caping” drum the absolute most.

I have also written a large number of articles where I’ve talked about how bw
“other” themselves and I know that Khadija and I too have cautioned bw numerous times re being out of sync with human norms by blanketly doing things that other women are not doing.

Not to even mention that I was the one who introduced the term “common sense” and “quality” men into these discussions.

NO ONE else was using these terms or concepts in relation to this subject.

As I said, I’ve noticed this in several of your lastest articles. In the article before this one, I could have sworn that Evia was the one writing portions of that post. LOL I recognized my “voice” and I’m sure other readers did too. I’m flattered that you’ve been an avid reader of my articles, have internalized the script, and see the “common sense” of the contents, but it is both a professional courtesy and in the best interest of fostering true bw’s sisterhood (that you say you want) when we give credit where credit is due.

Also, Neecy, I would have appreciated it if you would have contacted me by email to discuss the need to maybe not post “some” of the UN-pc things I mentioned in that comment–instead of not posting any portion of the comment, What was that about? Maybe I’ve overlooked it, but your email address isn’t prominent, so I had no other way of contacting you.

It’s fine to mention these concepts, but please be sure to reference me when you write about concepts that I’ve introduced as well as those that form a large portion of my work.

 

o    Neecy
Jan 08, 2015 @ 09:18:12

Evia,

I’m not “stealing” any concepts from anyone. In fact, all of these terms and concepts are used fluidly throughout many blogs.

You did not create the terms STEALTH or LIVING WELL IS THE BEST REVENGE. Lmao

In fact “living well is the best revenge” is a term and quote that’s been around before I was born.

I’m not going to do a citation for every thought or word CONCEPT that MAY HAVE been used by you or other bloggers.

Maybe the person who actually created those terms and concepts should contact you and make sure you reference them anytime you use their words or concepts that they *ACTUALLY* created.

The women who read this blog (most) are very familiar with the variety of BEE blogs out there.

This is not a possing match and if I feel there is something I pulled directly from you or anyone else I’ do post the credit (as such with not your girl Friday – and her concept of staying neutral).

So all I can say is – sorry you feel that way.

I don’t go to your blog and think “how can I copy EVIA” lol

And I find it funny that you are claiming words and terms as YOUR OWN that have been around since day one.

I’m not sure what your issue is with me, but I always since a condescending tone to almost everything I write.

So that’s all I gotta say. I will continue to write topics and concepts AS I SEE FIT an NO I will not put citations or references unless I took it directly from another site.

BWE centric bloggers write about the same topics and concepts and issues ALL THE TIME.

I give the credit when it’s due and if I feel I’ve snatched a concept from another blogger. All of my posts I do that including this one where I mention notyourgirlfriday.

Have a good day. And my email address is on the about page if you don’t have anything to add to the topic at hand and if you or anyone else wish to take this further.